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The Label On Your Action

When you deal with others, which label do you wear?

Selfishness is placing concern with oneself or one’s own interests above the well-being or interests of others.

Selfishness spawns cruelty and can be a sign of psychopathy.

When you think you are the one
‘Round whom revolves the sun,
Then your inflated sense of worth Is the devil granting you a curse.

“Almost every sinful action ever committed can be traced back to a selfish motive. It is a trait we hate in other people but justify in ourselves. ”

Generosity is a loving word, a sign of one who cares.

Generosity is the habit of giving without expecting anything in return. It can involve offering time, assets or talents to aid someone in need. Often equated with charity as a virtue , generosityis widely accepted in society as a desirable trait.

Add to your faith, virtue;….2 peter 1:5

When you deal with others, which label do you wear?

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Experience Grace

I left work early so I could have some uninterrupted study time right before the test in my Youth Issues class. When I got to class, everybody was doing their last minute studying.

The teacher came in and said he would review with us for just a little bit before the test. We went through the review, most of it right on the study guide, but there were some things he was reviewing that I had never heard of. When questioned about it, he said that they were in the book and we were responsible for everything in the book. We couldn’t really argue with that.

Finally it was time to take the test.

“Leave them face down on the desk until everyone has one and I’ll tell you to start,” our professor instructed.
When we turned them over, every answer on the test was filled in! The bottom of the last page said the following:

“This is the end of the Final Exam. All the answers on your test are correct. You will receive an ‘A’ on the final exam. The reason you passed the test is because the creator of the test took it for you. All the work you did in preparation for this test did not help you get the A. You have just experienced…grAce.”

He then went around the room and asked each student individually, “What is your grade? Do you deserve the grade you are receiving? How much did all your studying for this exam help you achieve your final grade?”

Talking about how some of us had probably studied hours and some just a few minutes, but had all received the same grade, he pointed to a story Jesus told in Matthew 20. The owner of a vineyard hired people to work in his field and agreed to pay them acertain amount. Several different times during the day, he hired more workers. When it was time to pay them, they all received the same amount. When the ones who had been hired first thing in the morning began complaining, the boss said, “Should you be angry because I am kind?” (Matthew 20:15).

You are alive today is by grace,reading this post with your eyes is by grace.

Have you thanked your Creator today because of the grace you have experienced?

Author Unknown
Submitted by Richard

Overcoming Youthful Lust

Every young person is sooner or later tempted by unclean thoughts. The sexual urge being stronger and more aggressive in men than in women, the former face this problem much more than the latter do.

In Mark 7:21, Jesus listed evil thoughts as the first things that proceed from the heart of men.Unclean thoughts plague the mind of the morally upright man as much as they do the mind of the adulterer

Feeling unable to resist the urge to lust after someone or after a few? Overcoming lust is a personal choice to make; it’s not something that can be imposed upon you or that you can simply switch off. Rather, you’ll need to work at a result that distracts, replaces, or softens your lustful thoughts. Here are some approaches that might work for you:

1 Turn to your faith . If you follow a faith, there will be plenty of guidance to draw on for overcoming lustful thoughts. Find the relevant texts from the Bible and apply these to your life on a regular basis.

2 Have respect for yourself . If you allow lust to be the driver in your daily relations with others, you’re not connecting fully with yourself. You are allowing your bodily desires to determine who you are and how you behave, rather than letting your mind and personality do some of the thinking.

3 Spend less time looking at imagery that promotes lust . Pornography, TV shows which portray men and women as only sexually attractive to one another, novels filled with graphic romances, etc., are all ways to increase a sense that lust is a normal way of relating when, in reality, it’s only a small portion of life that needs to be tamed.

4 Devote yourself to a real passion . Find what you love doing and throw your lust into that instead.locate whatever drives you,like probably a proffesion,and divert your lustful energies into creating great messages and energies to create and spread your passion instead.

5 Anchor yourself by hanging around with real people and notstarlets and bimbos . Real people are just as beautiful, only they don’t feel a need to attract the gaze and flaunt it because they’re already comfortable in their own skin.Also you need to quit flirting with people.

(1 Thessalonians 4:3-5)
This is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication:
That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel…..

Check out this Bible verses:
james 1 vs 13&14
proverbs 7 vs 25&26
galatians 5 vs 6-26
1corithians 6 vs 18
mathew 5 vs 27-28
james 4 vs 1-4

Specially inviting you to our youth praise night>>’UNEXPECTED’ coming up November 30th at Omoku Recovery centre,87 palace road omoku,rivers state.
Special guest of honour:YOU
Dress code: coporate

-AMA KIP KIP PRAISING GOD

Still on secular musics

ARGUMENT – What’s wrong with Gospel artists getting famous, making them secular dollars and signing contracts on secular labels? After all, the wealth of the wicked is laid up for the just, right?

RESPONSE – First of all, there is a price for fame. Jesus himself didn’t want to be famous because of what it would cost him. That’s why after he performed miracles, he would always say, “Don’t tell anyone”. Are we better than Christ that we should seek fame? Should anyone carrying the name of Christ desire to have their name higher than his? Who are we glorifying, his name, or our name?

Second, signing a secular contract sells away your right to make your own decisions about your music. How can a person that is governed by secular ideas, marketing strategies, and demonic influences, be in position to hear from God? The record company has the final say! You have put yourself in a position to be governed by the enemy and not God. Whatever they want from you, you are legally charged to give. Wherever they say go, you must go. Whatever they say do, you must do! All for the sake of fame and “getting out there”. The saddest part is that the mentalities of our nations musicians are changing. Now, before they ever hear from God, before they even get seasoned, or many times, get saved, they are searching for a record deal and trying to “get out there”.

Third, this scripture has been taken out of context. The key to the whole Proverb is the word “Laid up” or “Set aside”. That means that it is “detached” and stored up for the just. God is not going to use you to prosper the wicked! God is not going to use a gospel artist to promote a sinful artist. He is not going to let you use his name to validate the lifestyle of a sinful artist! God forbid. If the wealth is still attached to the wicked, God doesn’t want it. Since these wicked artists are hurting his people, they are cursed. And their money, as long as it’s attached to them, is cursed. So, don’t use this scripture if you are talking about money you are “making” for the wicked. God will lay it up, or set it aside for you.

PROOF – Remember when Saul tried to keep the wealth of wicked and offer it to God? 1Samuel 15:2 God didn’t want it because it was from the very people that were destroying his people! Or what about Achan! Joshua 7:1 Was the wealth he kept “laid up” for the just? Well, the very people that are destroying the minds and hearts of our youth today are Hip Hop artists! Do you think God wants you to make them prosper even more? God forbid!

SCRIPTURE – 1Corinthians 10:20 But I say, that the things, which the Gentiles sacrifice, they sacrifice to devils, and not to God: and I would not that ye should have fellowship with devils.

ARGUMENT – But I’ve got to have my music! What am I supposed to listen to? You are taking away the fun of living. Why can’t we just stop being so picky about things?

RESPONSE – This thing is Spiritual. If you are thinking naturally, you will never understand the message of EX! You will not understand what God really has for you. And you will not make it heaven without being “Spiritually minded”. If you desire secular music, secular clubs, sinful movies, and sinful things all the time, you really need to check your lifestyle. Are you really saved? Has God really come in and changed you? Are you free from demons? Are you free from curses? Please, my friend, look into your life. Check it out.

What has happened in America, is that the people with curses, demons, or serious emotional issues and problems are famous now. They are making the music that the world is buying. They are spreading confusion and the very hidden issues in their lives to the public. So, people with issues love and desire to be with people with issues! Even in Gospel, artists with demons, emotional problems, and dysfunctions are famous now! And they are causing many others to follow them without even addressing the hidden issues of their own lives.

PROOF – Just like Lucifer in heaven. Remember that, he did not leave the presence of God alone, but he convinced 1/3 of the angels to follow him. How in the world can you convince anyone to leave the presence of God for evil? MUSIC!

SCRIPTURES – (Read it all, thoroughly!)

Romans 8:5 For they that are after the flesh do mind the things of the flesh; but they that are after the Spirit the things of the Spirit

6 For to be carnally minded is death; but to be spiritually minded is life and peace.

7 Because the carnal mind is enmity against God: for it is not subject to the law of God, neither indeed can be.

8 So then they that are in the flesh cannot please God.

9 But ye are not in the flesh, but in the Spirit, if so be that the Spirit of God dwell in you. Now if any man has not the Spirit of Christ, he is none of his.

10* And if Christ be in you, the body is dead because of sin; but the Spirit is life because of righteousness.

11 But if the Spirit of him that raised up Jesus from the dead dwell in you, he that raised up Christ from the dead shall also quicken your mortal bodies by his Spirit that dwelleth in you.

12 Therefore, brethren, we are debtors, not to the flesh, to live after the flesh.

13 For if ye live after the flesh, ye shall die: but if ye through the Spirit do mortify the deeds of the body, ye shall live.

14 For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God.

15 For ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but ye have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father.

16 The Spirit itself beareth witness with our spirit, that we are the children of God:

ARGUMENT – Jesus ate with sinners and was around them all the time. That’s how he reached them. Why can’t these Gospel artists go to the world by recording with secular artists? What’s the difference?

RESPONSE – Yes, Jesus did reach out to sinners to win them. He did eat and spent time with them. This argument had me stumped! I searched for an answer to this argument and couldn’t seem to find one. But the Holy Spirit answered me very clearly one day. He told me to go to this scripture: Ephesians 5:11 And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them. I still didn’t understand the answer. But the Spirit spoke to me and said that the key to this verse is not the word “fellowship” because Jesus did spend time with unbelievers. But the key is the word “Works”. The Lord asked me what does BMI called a published song? A “work”! I was shocked. The Lord said that he indeed fellowshipped with sinners, but he never produced unfruitful “works” with them. When you record on a secular CD, you are apart of an unfruitful work of darkness. When Christian artists record on these sinful Hip Hop albums, their intentions may be good, yet because the content of the rest of the cd is sex, drugs, and sin, it is an unfruitful “work” of darkness! If you call BMI and ask them about that CD, they will refer to it as a “work”. And because of the sin, the CD is promoting the kingdom of “darkness” right? So is this the type of fellowship of an unfruitful work that the Lord was referring to? You bet! If it hurts the minds of people in anyway, it is not a work of Christ.

PROOF – If you are riding in a car with someone and they get pulled over for having drugs in the car, guess who goes to jail? Even if you didn’t know, you will go down because by riding with that person, you are saying “I agree” or “I condone your actions”. People of God, when you record, listen to, or in anyway support this Hip Hop movement, you are in agreement with it fully. You are condoning by association!

SCRIPTURE – 2 Corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

15 And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?

16 And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.

17 Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you,

ARGUMENT – God can still use the Gospel artists even though they are recording with secular artists right?

RESPONSE – This is a very good question. Many feel that we are asking people to destroy their Gospel CD’s as well as their secular CD’s. But you have to be careful how you handle this information on our site. We own and enjoy Gospel music from certain artists that have recorded with secular artists. But we do no encourage the support of projects that are in support of secular artists. For example, we love Fred Hammond’s project “Purpose by design” and we support his own projects because he doesn’t use secular artists, nor does he use secular producers. However, we will not support his collaboration with P.Diddy on Bad Boy records because we don’t want our money to support the enemy’s weapons against our nations youth! We do believe that the “anointing” can be compromised and lost by these artists if they continue to compromise their integrity and join themselves with these explicit artists in the name of Christ. Recording for and with these Hip Hop artists says one thing and one thing only. That you are in agreement with them and what they do! Jesus never produced “works” with sinners. To do that, you must join yourselves with them spiritually and agree with their spiritual state. After all, if you disagree with their lifestyle and method of making money, how can you join yourselves with them to prosper them and help promote their cause?

PROOF – The word of God was very clear in its dealings with the prophet Ezekiel and the sin of Israel. In the book of Ezekiel, God’s people began to close their eyes to sin because of prosperity and they begin to teach and promote sin. The prophets and ministers began to join themselves with prosperous sinners and began to embrace the sins of the people without standing up and teaching the true Word of God. They even began falsely prophesying to justify their actions. Sounds like our Gospel Music industry? Homosexuality was ignored and not dealt with. Vanity and self promotion was ignored and the norm. Mixing and mingling with sinful, secular people that claimed God and yet worshipped idols and other gods was and still is an abomination to the living God! How can you join your ministry to that? So we do believe that good music can be created by many of these compromising artists, but you must allow God to lead you in your support of them. After all, Lucifer was allowed to make music in Heaven, but when he crossed the line, he was removed. Many gospel artists are crossing the line by supporting the secular industry and it’s up to us as a church to take a stand. So do not allow sinful secular artists, producers, and writers to prophecy their doctrines of sin upon your ears. Even though their lyrics may be gospel, they are joined to Satan and are workers of iniquity! And since music carries their spirit, you may be inviting an evil presence into your church, home, or into you mind! God does not want any part of it. Check out what he told Ezekiel about this same subject:

SCRIPTURE – Ezekiel 4:11 Wherefore, as I live, saith the Lord GOD; Surely, because thou hast defiled my sanctuary with all thy detestable things, and with all thine abominations, therefore will I also diminish thee; neither shall mine eye spare, neither will I have any pity.

Chistians and secuar music

Of course there must be guidelines and limits with regard to the kind of secular music Christians listen to. It’s clear that Christians should not listen to any heavy rock music that has satanic messages. Nor should they purposely listen to songs that have lyrics promoting a decidedly immoral lifestyle. When I say purposely I mean that they should not buy such music for their own personal collections. If we are living in the real world we cannot help but be exposed to such music. After all any secular radio station is going to play some such songs and if we want to listen to the radio, we will hear them – but we ought not condone or give credence to them by listening to them by personal choice.
I also believe it is decidedly inappropriate and unethical by Christian standards to fill one’s mind with the kind of morbidly depressing songs which is classed as “emo” music. Why? Because it’s very likely to promote suicidal thoughts. This type of music which so many young people are listening to in these times is terribly dangerous and I would say it certainly goes against the Scriptural instruction we are given to fill our minds with things that are positive, wholesome and God-honouring. Even Christians can get depressed and cannot be blamed for that – but purposely listening to such music would most certainly be giving the devil a foothold.
ARGUMENT – I don’t listen to the words, I just like the beats/music.

RESPONSE – Your sub conscience records everything! You may try to block out the lyrics, but you cannot stop them from being recorded into your mind. Your mind can even record backwards messages. It has been scientifically proven that your mind is so clever that, even when you aren’t trying to, you can receive the information that is stated in the lyrics of music. Even if it is recorded backwards. And it affects you! When you listen to sex, sex, sex, or murder, murder, murder, those are things that will come out of you in the heat of the moment. They are programmed in your mind without your consent.

PROOF – How many TV commercial jingles do you know? And how many of those did you actually learn purposely? Your answer is probably that you never intended to learn them, but because they played in your mind, you learned them without putting forth any effort. Now, where do you think the foul messages from Hip Hop are going when you listen to them?

SCRIPTURE – Galatians 6:8 for he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting.

ARGUMENT – I’m not influenced by music. I can listen to it and it won’t even affect me.

RESPONSE – Then why do advertisers pay up to $1,000,000 for 15 minutes of commercial time during the Super Bowl? They know something that you don’t even know about yourself. They can play their commercial jingle and show you pictures of things, and influence you to buy their product in a matter of seconds. Your mouth gets watery, your lips get white, and your stomach starts growling because your hunger and your ears begin to work together to cause you to desire that hamburger! Well, the same goes for sin. Your fleshly man and those lyrics/videos begin to work together to cause you to desire sin. Our flesh is already wicked and desires things that are not of God. So what happens when you mix that with sinful lyrics, or sinful video images?

PROOF – What kind of music do you like? Okay, now, what kind of things do you do that are not of God? Told ya!!!

SCRIPTURE – James 1:14 But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed. Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death.
ARGUMENT – The secular artists that I listen to are Christians. Even though their lyrics are foul and they dress provocatively, they say they are Christians.

RESPONSE – Whom are they working for? You see, they have to be responsible for their actions. If they are making music that causes young people to sin or be tempted to sin, then they aren’t working for Christ. If they use profanity, sex, drugs, violence, sexy costumes, or any other sinful thing to sell records then they cannot be working for Christ. Therefore, if they aren’t working with him, then they are working against him. And they are subject to the demonic forces that control the recording industry.

PROOF – Count the number of songs that glorify sin on their album. Then, count the number of songs that glorify God on their albums. Who won?

SCRIPTURE – Matthew 7:21 Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven.

ARGUMENT – What is wrong with Gospel artists singing and recording with secular artists. That is a way to get the Gospel out to the sinners right?

RESPONSE – Music was never used in the bible to win the lost. Music was always used to prepare the hearts for the word of God or the presence of God. Music cannot win a soul. When Paul and Silas were locked in jail, the bible says that they sang praises to the Lord and the doors opened. A guard heard them and fell to his knees and asked, “What must I do to be saved.” The music stopped and Paul preached the Word to him! Yeah, a lot a people feel good after they hear the ONE gospel song on these foul albums, but are they getting the word afterwards? How can they when the next song is XXX! You see, there is a deep danger in the spirit realm when gospel artists record with sinful secular artists. You are opening people up and not completing the job.

But the worst part is that the message of Christ is made of non-effect by the message of sin. You are causing people to sin and then letting them know it’s okay as long as they sing about Christ afterwards? God forbid. Music cannot save them. Look at Lucifer in heaven. He was making God’s music and ushering in the very presence of God. But his heart turned evil and proud. Did the music change him? What about the sinful artists you are recording with. Is the music changing them? NO! They can record a 20 song CD and have one gospel song and if it doesn’t change them, what makes you think it will change others that listen to it? I have yet to hear one of these “crossover” gospel artists say that the rest of the music on the secular albums that they are recording on is bad! They can’t because they are on the project!

And what happens when the gospel music fans want to hear the new song that their favorite artists has recorded? They have to buy the sinful CD, sit and listen to the sin, sex, violence, etc. to get to the gospel song? Do you know what you are doing to the youth of America? Not only are you supporting the secular industry, but you are causing Christians to buy the XXX cd’s just to hear you! Can you imagine a 15 year old Christian teenager purchasing Missy Elliot’s CD because they are a fan of Evangelist Dorinda Clark, or a fan of Yolanda Adams? Can you imagine what happens to them when they listen to “Get your freak on” or “One Minute Man” while they sleep or while they are riding in their car? God is upset people! He would never tempt people with sin before he offers salvation!

PROOF – Imagine a large 24 x 24 foot billboard of 2 teenagers having sex. And on the bottom corner, written very small, are the words “Jesus Christ”. Now, what do people see first? Why? Because the painting glorifies the sin, and not Christ. And even worse, Jesus’ name appears as a signature of approval and not a message for change! Now, imagine that the billboard is a CD. Get the picture?

SCRIPTURES- Luke 11:23 He that is not with me is against me: and he that gathereth not with me scattereth. Ephesians 5:11 And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them. 2 Corintians 4:2 But have renounced the hidden things of dishonesty, not walking in craftiness, nor handling the word of God deceitfully; but by manifestation of the truth commending ourselves to every man’s conscience in the sight of God.

BUILDING STRONG FRIENDSHIPS

W hat hurts friendships, and what builds them up? Here’s some practical advice.
With friends like that, who needs enemies?” How many times have you heard a phrase like that describing a relationship in which colliding egos and clashing wills are destroying a friendship? Still, people seek out relationships because God created in us a need for friends and companionship. Loneliness and isolation gnaw at those without friends.

Good friendships are integral parts of our lives. They have been called a mirror that reflects our moods and characteristics, strengths and weaknesses. The foundation of a strong friendship is to be more concerned with others than with yourself. Out going concern-love-that’s what makes friends and helps you to keep them.

What Hurts Relationships

In order to see how to build strong friendships, let’s look at the forces that work to destroy relationships and then examine constructive building blocks. First, we must be wary of jealousy. It erodes outgoing concern more than anything else. It’s suffocating to a friendship because it goes hand in hand with lust. Instead of caring and sharing, lust gets and takes advantage of others, finally killing a relationship.

Another destructive factor is distrust. Distrust thwarts that closeness, openness and sharing so essential to friendship. Gossip and talebearing also quickly consume relationships. You’ve probably been with people who seem to constantly run others down-sometimes even those they call their friends. It’s an easy habit to get into, but it can lead to some devastating results.

It irks me to hear that someone is saying bad things about me behind my back. Yes, I know, when that happens you should ignore it. “Sticks and stones my break my bones, but words will never hurt me,” goes the old saying. But it’s hard to make people forget what others have said about you.

The Bible says that death and life in the power of the tongue (Proverbs 18:21). Gossip, name calling and slander erode relationships as quickly as fire consumes wood.

Don’t overdo it

Perhaps you do avoid these destructive flaws, but still have trouble making or keeping friends. It could be that you’re trying too hard. If you are too accommodating (always agreeing with someone just to win his or her friendship, you are not being yourself, and the other person may feel you’re covering up your own feelings.

True, we should take the initiative in beginning friendships. A man who has friends must show himself friendly, the Bible says. You will not make new friends by sitting around waiting for someone to coax you out of your apathy or shyness. But it’s important not to demand, grovel or pout in order to be liked. You can’t rush into relationships, trying to make an impression.

Avoid trying to prove yourself and impress others. You’ll find maintaining a few good solid friendships is better than trying to impress and endless string of people. Steer clear of the too-few-friends, too may acquaintances syndrome. Flattery won’t help a relationship, either. Flattery is defined as “excessive praise given for ulterior motives.”

A compliment, on the other hand, is “an expression of appreciation offered with sincerity, with no thought of personal gain.” You can make a person feel good all day by saying a fitting word of honest praise or recognition, but flattery hurts because it is empty of true meaning.

Another vital ingredient for successful relationships is appreciation listening. This isn’t just polite silence. It’s an effective technique called listening, which is responding to others’ comments in a way that lets them know you think their ideas, feelings and experiences are important. If you pay attention during a conversation, you will constantly be given clues about what to say.

Tact is important. So many times inappropriate words that you later regret slip out. It only takes a split second to revise a statement or question through your billions of brain cells.

How You Say It

How can you use conversation to build a strong friendship? Good results can come from practicing the following seven steps:
1. Don’t grab the conversation with “Yes, now take me, for instance…” You know how irritating it is to hear someone who has to have the final word on everything, from aardvarks to zymurgy (a branch of applied chemistry that deal with the fermentation process).
2. Don’t let your gaze wander from the other person’s face, except momentarily. Give undivided attention.
3. Affirm the feelings of the other with praise, encouragement, hope or just a nod. Sometimes, like when a friend is explaining a serious problem, it can be hard to find the right words. But a nod of encouragement goes a long way.
4. Don’t interrupt.
5. Don’t try to top the other person’s story or joke. Remember, also, that it can be embarrassing to tell a joke someone has already heard. If you’ve heard it, you don’t need to tell everyone.
6. Try to feel what the other person feels by putting yourself in his or her place.
7. Don’t argue!

The Bible verse on friendship I Corinthians 13 tells us to be positive about our friends by believing the best, not thinking evil and not rejoicing in iniquity (lawbreaking).

Friendships need constant nurturing. Both partners must have a sense that one friend is not leaning or depending too much on the other and a sense that both are gaining from the relationship. Disagreement is fine. If friends never have conflicting views (that doesn’t mean quarreling), it could be a sign of apathy. People with convictions will disagree. If two people share a deep bond of like-mindedness or affection, it will survive constructive argument.

By not expecting serenity every day, a friend avoids the dangers of boredom. A budding friendship takes time and commitment from both parties if it’s to become a fulfilling relationship. The hallmark of friendship is being more concerned with others than with yourself; remember, that’s what makes friends.

Fame and fortune are relatively minor evidences of success. You’ll be a truly successful person if you become a loving, giving individual, one who is constantly building friendships and trying to bring happiness to others.